tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post114791802246265693..comments2023-07-03T01:07:37.640-07:00Comments on Ignore the Crazy: Welcome to "The Last Resort" - we hope you enjoy your stayBekhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02421106490759593190noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1148443120503337782006-05-23T20:58:00.000-07:002006-05-23T20:58:00.000-07:00Great one for the file.Great one for the file.Carinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13859567470814286102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1148361001097049672006-05-22T22:10:00.000-07:002006-05-22T22:10:00.000-07:00You have inspired me! I did this today to my daugh...You have inspired me! I did this today to my daughter's room and so far it is working beautifully! Thank you! Thank you!Suzie Petuniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13387520367654400467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1148014662158033192006-05-18T21:57:00.000-07:002006-05-18T21:57:00.000-07:00Thanks for posting and... being brave to share. I ...Thanks for posting and... being brave to share. I love learning things like this... saving it in my store of advice in case I need to pull it out.QueenScarletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02270993732115125040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1148011179939060132006-05-18T20:59:00.000-07:002006-05-18T20:59:00.000-07:00MCP....I feel you pain. Like I said, I hadn't felt...MCP....I feel you pain. Like I said, I hadn't felt this battle weary since she was 2 1/2'ish. The difference is that when she was 2 she didn't know any better...now she does. Doesn't make it easier...but having her act like a fool now makes me feel like all that stuff wasn't worth it? Ya know.<BR/><BR/>Two is hard. There is a reason my children are 4.5 years apart. It was 3.5 years before I would even consider the idea of doing it again. :-)Bekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02421106490759593190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1148007050460614492006-05-18T19:50:00.000-07:002006-05-18T19:50:00.000-07:00I so needed this post. Me and Junior are on the ou...I so needed this post. Me and Junior are on the outs all day lately. This morning he had been in time-out THREE times BEFORE 6:30 a.m.. And then I feel bad. But he's HARD right now.More Caffiene, Pleasehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06700980008836722108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1148006546007393692006-05-18T19:42:00.000-07:002006-05-18T19:42:00.000-07:00Sarah...trust me. The Last Resort is as much of a ...Sarah...trust me. The Last Resort is as much of a punishment (if not more) for me then her. :-)<BR/><BR/>How is the wait for Baby G? (She is another Ethiopia adopter/waiter).Bekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02421106490759593190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1148005596547940072006-05-18T19:26:00.000-07:002006-05-18T19:26:00.000-07:00I am very impressed. It seems so Supernanny, and ...I am very impressed. It seems so Supernanny, and you aren't even getting paid. I also heard the last resort as they get older is finally to remove the bedroom door. However, I've always felt this would actually be punishing yourself!sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13170943461941679548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1148000237585401582006-05-18T17:57:00.000-07:002006-05-18T17:57:00.000-07:00bek-the story is posted.just for you.bek-<BR/><BR/>the <A HREF="http://www.dalener.blogspot.com" REL="nofollow">story</A> is posted.<BR/><BR/>just for you.dalenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13414972890937798371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1147994195325224242006-05-18T16:16:00.000-07:002006-05-18T16:16:00.000-07:00Hi Fizzle,Welcome. I hope that didn't scare you. ...Hi Fizzle,<BR/><BR/>Welcome. I hope that didn't scare you. It isn't all bad. :-) This is actually made our home a much better place to be. <BR/><BR/>EVERYONE ELSE--you should real Fizzle's blog. She and her hubby are in the early stages of adopting from Ethiopia. This will be me in a few months. Good Luck with the homestudy. There are other amoms on this blog that can relate....Bekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02421106490759593190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1147991307868013312006-05-18T15:28:00.000-07:002006-05-18T15:28:00.000-07:00Yeah, actually I was expecting a lot of horrified ...Yeah, actually I was expecting a lot of horrified responses, too, and I thought I was going to showcase my hard bone for saying, "well, sometimes the last resort is the only resort." <BR/><BR/>All these things to consider which are not yet even on my mind. Let me get to picking up the kid, then I'll think of stripping his nursery of all goodies 'til he stop that annoying night time crying... ;-)Fizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05338584757449186603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1147984632799229212006-05-18T13:37:00.000-07:002006-05-18T13:37:00.000-07:00Today she earned back her desk chair. Plus, she h...Today she earned back her desk chair. Plus, she had to go to the dentist and have a cavity filled (w/ a shot) so I let her choose another toy b/c she was so good. She chose to have all her shoes back (that means she gets to choose). So far, she hasn't picked toys. We may be on to something....Bekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02421106490759593190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1147984066090971012006-05-18T13:27:00.000-07:002006-05-18T13:27:00.000-07:00Bek, you're awesome. What a great strategy! When m...Bek, you're awesome. What a great strategy! When my kids say that I'm a mean mom, I tell them, "Thanks! That means I'm doing my job well!" A good disciplinarian means a good parent, in my book. I'll have to remember this trick. (It won't work for A--, but maybe for Lego-Addict S--.)Sister Pottymouthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10987391736782375817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1147980871962029722006-05-18T12:34:00.000-07:002006-05-18T12:34:00.000-07:00I think this sounds like a fabulous idea- not real...I think this sounds like a fabulous idea- not really Attilla the Hun, more like I'm-the-mom-and-I-mean-business. Hopefully I remember this when mine gets older. He just turned 2 in March and is already getting pretty strong-willed.<BR/><BR/>wendysue, I certainly hope this works for husbands too! If I took away Internet from my husband, I don't think he'd know what to do with himself.kristibhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18069795746447251099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1147964783607374502006-05-18T08:06:00.000-07:002006-05-18T08:06:00.000-07:00Tracey,We do the vinegar. It still works. I don't ...Tracey,<BR/><BR/>We do the vinegar. It still works. I don't have to do it as often, but it is another good (unemotional) way to put your point across. Plus, it is portable!! I can do it in the store or car, still be consistant and not get angry. <BR/><BR/>This makes me sound like Attilla the Hun of children. I am not. Someone who knows me in person needs to back me up.....<BR/><BR/>Naddin, I have no idea what I am going to do when my boy is 6. He is already stronger then me, he is impervious to pain and he likes the taste of vinegar. I think I will send him to Tracey's Jeffery to sort out!!! :-)Bekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02421106490759593190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1147964622907281122006-05-18T08:03:00.000-07:002006-05-18T08:03:00.000-07:00Hey ladies,Thanks for the support. I was honestly ...Hey ladies,<BR/>Thanks for the support. I was honestly expecting horror. <BR/><BR/>Again, I am strict and I do pick my battles...we let lots of things go that I don't feel are important (like watching tv...I don't really care, as long as it isn't Bratz, or too old for her). <BR/><BR/>We had a smaller version of this in the past called "toy time out". When she was naughty (or usually the consequence of 1,2,3, one of her toys would go to "time out". On the top of the TV armoire. So she could see it and be sad that she didn't have it. THis worked when she was about 2. <BR/><BR/>Once she was three, I told her that if she didn't shape up and take care of her toys we would give them to the "poor children" aka, Goodwill. Only one time did I have to do it. I made her pack up a few toys, I put her in the car and made her drop them off. I only had to do that once......then she knew I meant business. Mean, maybe, but how traumitized is she going to be because she has less STUFF. Ironically, we go to Goodwill all the time and buy toys! We ARE the poor children. :-)<BR/><BR/>Compulsive, I want to hear that story.Bekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02421106490759593190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1147963195586773542006-05-18T07:39:00.000-07:002006-05-18T07:39:00.000-07:00Good for you! I'm wondering if you think this wou...Good for you! I'm wondering if you think this would work for husbands that have yet to finish projects? Take away the computer and ESPN maybe?wendysuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06972358449380700170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1147961415572185522006-05-18T07:10:00.000-07:002006-05-18T07:10:00.000-07:00I LOVE it.I LOVE it.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01959841561323203499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1147954398654796112006-05-18T05:13:00.000-07:002006-05-18T05:13:00.000-07:00This is SO Dr. Phil! You're the boss and you cont...This is SO Dr. Phil! You're the boss and you control whether or not the family is happy or sad. Perfect. Kudos to you, Bek!Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12327187018339417265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1147939999458149872006-05-18T01:13:00.000-07:002006-05-18T01:13:00.000-07:00I will remember this for the future--we have just ...I will remember this for the future--we have just started the "Uh Oh." It is working, except when W does it she cries. Immediately. It kind of breaks my heart...La Yenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15044092297673361855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1147928500181516012006-05-17T22:01:00.000-07:002006-05-17T22:01:00.000-07:00You are so smart to do this while she is only six ...You are so smart to do this while she is only six instead of waiting till she's 15.<BR/><BR/>Good luck. I sure wish I would've heard this idea before now (my headstrong daughter is 11 next month.) <BR/><BR/>Oh, and I love that you call it "The Last Resort." Maybe it's not too late. I guess I could resort to such measures if I needed to.<BR/><BR/>Here's a funny thing that just occurred to me, however. My kids will tell you a mean mom, but I am very much a "choose your battle" kind of gal. (I'm also an old mom, so there are times when I just plain don't have it in me...)<BR/><BR/>In any case, there are times when I know I need to crack down or take some drastic measure and I really have to psych myself up to do it because I am expecting resistance to the scale of Armageddon.<BR/><BR/>Initially I do get ranting and raving and gnashing of teeth. But it's almost half-hearted and it dissipates much more quickly and easily than I expected. <BR/><BR/>I am coming to believe that there are times when our kids actually want us to reign them in and although they might not even understand that consciously, they respond to it.<BR/><BR/>Someday I will tell you about when my 10-year-old daughter bought a $30 jacket as a present for a sixth-grader she had a crush on and what happened when her angry mother marched down to the school to stop make things right.dalenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13414972890937798371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1147924959924465762006-05-17T21:02:00.000-07:002006-05-17T21:02:00.000-07:00Completely excellent idea. I think 6 is really ha...Completely excellent idea. I think 6 is really hard, too, except mine is a boy (worse). Sometimes drastic is just what they need! Kudos to you, Mom!Milliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09673273777386297395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-1147924831530871172006-05-17T21:00:00.000-07:002006-05-17T21:00:00.000-07:00This sounds like my life with my three year old. A...This sounds like my life with my three year old. Almost word for word. Oddly enough, it appears our daughters also have the same name (maybe there's something to that). Mine's probably not old enough for the Last Resort, though. Maybe on a smaller scale, like taking away her favorite toys, etc. Just not everything in the room.<BR/>Good luck with it. I love strict moms because I am one, too.This is mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04029222863413761445noreply@blogger.com