tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post7698598893507984073..comments2023-07-03T01:07:37.640-07:00Comments on Ignore the Crazy: Catch up.... or not?Bekhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02421106490759593190noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-70420431857669500802008-02-04T16:17:00.000-08:002008-02-04T16:17:00.000-08:00i really love your writing - one of your many tale...i really love your writing - one of your many talents!angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06530571790165618032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-5476047146118608592008-02-04T07:29:00.000-08:002008-02-04T07:29:00.000-08:00Having help in no way equates to slacking off. And...Having help in no way equates to slacking off. <BR/><BR/>And I am pulling for you! Just a little while left, huh. It feels like forEVER, but then I remember when it's over there will be another kid to wrangle... which is another kettle of business. <BR/><BR/>I'll have to try the pepperoni trick... yesterday mine completely unspooled some purple thread (why is it always the one out of a hundred I was actually using?) while running around the house calling it "coffee" (??), but it bought me a good ten minutes, so he got no complaints from me.Miriamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01333660644532355543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-36485632796959772612008-02-01T21:48:00.000-08:002008-02-01T21:48:00.000-08:00Hi! I saw your post on Mormon Mommy Wars about yo...Hi! I saw your post on Mormon Mommy Wars about your upcoming delivery to a little girl with T21. Three months ago, I delivered baby #6 and found out that he has Down Sydnrome. It's been a roller coaster - trying to enjoy the ride and hold on tight! The most helpful thing has been to not read books, the internet, etc...just talk to moms who've been there. Hugs to you and welcome to the club! <BR/>{Rachel}<BR/>brianrachelandkids.blogspot.comrachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06418636869407432268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-47108733751037246702008-02-01T17:16:00.000-08:002008-02-01T17:16:00.000-08:00Just replace the word "judging" with "jealousy"! ...Just replace the word "judging" with "jealousy"! I know I'm jealous! Having had a son like your Jacob, THAT in and of itself is a full-time job! I'm still catching up on sleep from his toddler years!Leisha Marethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13292545230226607243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-40638547123424563432008-02-01T15:41:00.000-08:002008-02-01T15:41:00.000-08:00Thanks Mom!!Queen, I keep forgetting how to change...Thanks Mom!!<BR/><BR/>Queen, I keep forgetting how to change that. I didn't do it on purpose..<BR/><BR/>Julie... I would post the down syndrome one but you see, I am not having a baby. I just pretend it isn't happening. If there is no baby, there is no DS, right? Not that I don't want a baby or care that she will have an extra chromosome, I am just to busy, tired and overwhelmed potty training and getting Norah to walk that it is very easy to just pretend it isn't happening.<BR/><BR/>This week I am going to dig out the baby clothes and buy something for her to wear home from the hospital. We will ease into reality.... ;-)Bekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02421106490759593190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-81864697479437794342008-02-01T15:29:00.000-08:002008-02-01T15:29:00.000-08:00I happen to know that Jacob got 6 pretty little st...I happen to know that Jacob got 6 pretty little stitches in his forehead the other night and Bek a hard time finding someone to stay with the girls so they all weren't schlepped to the ER. I think 24 hour help wouldn't be too much!!!! To bad there isn't room for that!!!<BR/>jkAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-90555046831813344132008-02-01T15:28:00.000-08:002008-02-01T15:28:00.000-08:00I happen to know that Jacob got 6 pretty little st...I happen to know that Jacob got 6 pretty little stitches in his forehead the other night and Bek a hard time finding someone to stay with the girls so they all weren't schlepped to the ER. I think 24 hour help wouldn't be too much!!!! To bad there isn't room for that!!!<BR/>jkAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-25094168786628353292008-02-01T10:41:00.000-08:002008-02-01T10:41:00.000-08:00Just sayin'...I've been impatiently waiting for th...Just sayin'...<BR/><BR/>I've been impatiently waiting for the down syndrome post.<BR/><BR/>You're going to need a new header!<BR/><BR/>PediCURE, is how it should be seen. The best thing ever.<BR/><BR/>We miss you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-14195590940412612912008-02-01T10:07:00.000-08:002008-02-01T10:07:00.000-08:00I laugh every time I visit and see "CA, Afghanista...I laugh every time I visit and see "CA, Afghanistan".QueenScarletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02270993732115125040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-89029098857839437512008-02-01T09:51:00.000-08:002008-02-01T09:51:00.000-08:00yeah, that's sympathy FROM you I need....I got it ...yeah, that's sympathy FROM you I need....I got it for you!!Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13768235150017048781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-17171090519105313032008-02-01T09:50:00.000-08:002008-02-01T09:50:00.000-08:00Good to see another update. We miss you when you ...Good to see another update. We miss you when you are super crazy with your life!! :) Yeah, I feel for you in the icky weather, but I need some sympathy for you, even if I KNOW the weather sucks in MI, I did NOT choose to live here and am counting the days until I can leave (although, really, is Utah any warmer, I don't think so...sigh). I just follow hubby around...and girl, I'm all about a Nanny. I used to be one and I would LOVE to have one. I keep saying if I had a housekeeper I'd be such a better Mom!! :) I had an adoptive Mom staying at our house for a couple of weeks, and it was so nice, just like being able to go pick up Maddy from school and leave Jordan at home. Yeah...I'm all about the Nanny. Oh, and we have our homevisit tomorrow. (Yes, I should be sweeping right now)...basically we'll be approved after that. I am hoping I can convince Hubby to let me share the news. We'll see!!Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13768235150017048781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-25121624484646278872008-02-01T08:21:00.000-08:002008-02-01T08:21:00.000-08:00P.S. I haven't seen that many SAHM's that are crit...P.S. I haven't seen that many SAHM's that are critical. Mostly online. IRL, my friends are supportive (and frankly, where we live most people have helpers--cooks, cleaners, nanny's....etc).<BR/><BR/>Didn't want you to think I was getting it from ALL sides (in fact, my inlaws think that I should have someone every day, 9-5...but I don't need that really...)Bekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02421106490759593190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-32610425041377877542008-02-01T08:19:00.000-08:002008-02-01T08:19:00.000-08:00If I DID care about what others thought, I wouldn'...If I DID care about what others thought, I wouldn't any more. I have a strangely high self confidence about stuff like this. I know what is right for my kids. After the year I have been through I have learned that there is no point in worrying about what others think... <BR/><BR/>I think it comes down to making choices that are right for our family. One thing that is really great about having "help' is that I get to spend more one on one time with each kid. I have really needed to help Jacob get on the right track behaviour wise. He is a typical three year old and needs me to be on him EVERY SECOND to have some consistant discipline. When I have him one on one out and about, I can do that. Otherwise, I am too distracted and tired. <BR/><BR/>Also, my helper comes in from 10:00to 2:00 three days a week. I know that I can always schedule every appointment during those times. I get the kids up and fed, I drop Lu off at school on the way. Voila. :-) I think that when the baby comes, I will have someone come early-ish (like 7:00) to get the kids up and about. D leaves for work at 4:00 am and I expect that I will be up at night A LOT with the baby. It would be nice to have someone get them up and out the door so I can sleep a bit.<BR/><BR/>It is good to hear from everyone. I have missed my online community. More posts on their way...Bekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02421106490759593190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-16163800067057691232008-02-01T07:35:00.000-08:002008-02-01T07:35:00.000-08:00I wish we didn't live on opposite sides of the cou...I wish we didn't live on opposite sides of the country! We could have some good times eating thai food (and/or all food) and comiserating over the self-righteous SAHMs who just loooooooove to pass judgement. In my mind the bottom line is this: Are our kids happy? If so, then whatever we're doing is good enough. I have not only a nanny and a housekeeper, but also someone who does a few hours of cooking a week -- and still I'm livin' on the edge of sanity. Granted, I also have a more-than full time career, but the whole house of cards is just a crazy, crazy life. But, like you say- Ignore the crazy!<BR/>:)<BR/>Glad to see your post and can't wait for more!<BR/>HeatherHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05046870363509253257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-68176085696896735502008-01-31T23:02:00.000-08:002008-01-31T23:02:00.000-08:00The Self-righteous SAHM are just jealous that they...The Self-righteous SAHM are just jealous that they can't afford nannies! <BR/>You COULD always move to Utah and have lots of free childcare! What do you say?<BR/><BR/>(by the way, I promise your camera battery and L's shirt will be in the mail this week. Did the ipod surface?)CKWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07753715981940316495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-40659092915096584622008-01-31T21:58:00.000-08:002008-01-31T21:58:00.000-08:00Glad you're back! I think you have all the right i...Glad you're back! I think you have all the right ideas. Although I am a adoptive parent in waiting, that will be working, I can totally support you and high-five you for the choices you are making! :-) <BR/><BR/>For me, as a working parent, I plan have someone come in to clean house so that when I am home - I will have quality time for my family. <BR/><BR/>The choices we make are all beneficial to a healthy, happy Mom-which is so important to our families. <BR/><BR/>Hugs! PepPattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01125814676479465440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-20189151448603448142008-01-31T19:14:00.000-08:002008-01-31T19:14:00.000-08:00Bek, I missed you. (and that phone call never hap...Bek, I missed you. (and that phone call never happened. . .it will, I promise)<BR/>But, my "ideas" about nanny's totally changed when my sister got an "au pair" with only one child. The sitter/friend watching/what the heck am I going to do with the kids scene is awful. I HATE it! Nannies totally make sense. I hope you can find one that likes to actually show up and be there!<BR/><BR/>I SO need a housecleaner (actually a junk picker-upper, organizer, plus all the other stuff. . .).<BR/><BR/>I've missed your Jacob stories. . .how about the little jolt he got?wendysuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06972358449380700170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-26201374380622078692008-01-31T15:50:00.000-08:002008-01-31T15:50:00.000-08:00Hey Bek - Good to hear from you. Does me posting ...Hey Bek - <BR/><BR/>Good to hear from you. Does me posting a comment on your blog mean that I can go a few more days without updating mine? (Did I just define blog-co-dependence?)<BR/><BR/>I loved your post about the weather, as that is one of the biggest things I miss about living in California. We've been lucky here for the last few days that it has <B>not</B> been raining...<I><B>and</B></I> we've had sun!! So of course <I>now</I>the kids get colds and flus and spend the week home from school!<BR/><BR/>And believe me, we can <I>totally</I> relate to not having enough space on rainy days! Going to 1/3 the amount of living space at 150% of the price stings a bit. At this rate, if we move to CA after this it will seem like a huge improvement in cost of living and the amount of space we could afford!<BR/><BR/>Anyway, glad to see you're back. Say hello to the fam from us.Tabloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04073656186893527011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-27139816075398371552008-01-31T15:16:00.000-08:002008-01-31T15:16:00.000-08:00Why do you feel like you have to justify your nann...Why do you feel like you have to justify your nanny? I think every SAHM mom (even the self-righteous ones) would LOVE a nanny (even part time) if they could have one. Besides- 1 Jacob = 6 regular kids :)<BR/><BR/>BTW- I'll totally quit my job and be your nanny! I'm glad to hear you are doing well!Makhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01252980023217163380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-14725286998199946042008-01-31T14:28:00.000-08:002008-01-31T14:28:00.000-08:00I am so glad to see your post -- tell Suzi hello f...I am so glad to see your post -- tell Suzi hello from me -- I was wondering if she had a blog -- she's so great! Trust me, I feel your pain about the weather -- you are truly paying for it there. As for the m/nanny issue, no justification necessary . . . Chris just needs more income!:) It is great to have you back! XONelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06259859855771866396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-88976149310772171122008-01-31T14:13:00.000-08:002008-01-31T14:13:00.000-08:00Good. 'Cause I miss reading regular updates from ...Good. 'Cause I miss reading regular updates from you!<BR/><BR/>The kids are as cute as ever.<BR/><BR/>Wendy form Flippin' SweetWendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01837671746294035442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-15864144031935928782008-01-31T11:45:00.000-08:002008-01-31T11:45:00.000-08:00Whoo hoo!! A post! I was about to email you and se...Whoo hoo!! A post! I was about to email you and see what was going on with you girl! I want to hear about all of those events. I am waiting for the Downs 101 post and my housecleaner decided to not show up and never call me again. Were our bathrooms that dirty??? Good luck with finding a nanny. Have you asked that girl why she decides to flake? Could she be more responsible and stick around? Having her do Norah's hair must be so wonderful! Love ya- glad you're back!angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12822563715893364831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-70608700670922795062008-01-31T10:57:00.000-08:002008-01-31T10:57:00.000-08:00Oh and Queen.. for me it is all about the fried ba...Oh and Queen.. for me it is all about the fried banannas and coconut ice cream.<BR/><BR/>Lets get Thai food next time you are in town....Bekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02421106490759593190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-10344074619820442472008-01-31T10:56:00.000-08:002008-01-31T10:56:00.000-08:00I am feeling the love...Queen, we just got back fr...I am feeling the love...<BR/><BR/>Queen, we just got back from Disneyland (but we would go again.... alas, not that week)....<BR/><BR/>CW--I wrote you a long thank you note and it got TOO long and emotional and now is just another thing sitting in my "drafts" pile.<BR/><BR/>City Mamma. Amen. I saw your brother this week at church (that means I went to church!!). Funny and small world. <BR/><BR/>Laura...we just live about 20 minutes away. Someday we will meet. I am on pins and needles to find out about your job. I would love to talk to you sometime about teaching and how to best serve my special needs kids...<BR/><BR/>Azucar.... Amen. I am not really apologetic about having them, just that I know what people must think. But then I laugh at those people while I am shopping alone and getting pedicures. ;-) Also, I have had QUITE a month with Jacob. He has officially outdone El Guille. I thought we would be past this phase by now. I will post about it when I can stop crying (teaser--more stitches, more ruined carpet, many makeup mishaps, a broken water heater, the list goes on... all a la Jacob).<BR/><BR/>I am even (gasp) working on a new post. I might do some filler picture posts too. The extended family tom-toms tell me that we are in need of new photos...Bekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02421106490759593190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12830417.post-26610771306448651632008-01-31T10:55:00.000-08:002008-01-31T10:55:00.000-08:00from one stay at home mother to another I totally ...from one stay at home mother to another I totally get it!! there are lots of days there is not enough to go around. If I had to got to appts like you I'd be in a quandry. A once a year doctors requires great coordination (and begging) and a haircut once every 6 weeks a true blessing. If you can afford a nanny or a manny go for it!<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you are trying to get back. I enjoy your kids' stories. Haven't had to get BBQ sauce out of an afro....but it has to rank up there with sand. I fear sand.<BR/><BR/>big hugs!Kathy's Kornerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10736616768905799131noreply@blogger.com