Wednesday, November 28, 2007
It is a short FYI for the benefit of friends and family and also to address some questions we have been asked. If you have a question you want me to include or are just curious about, e mail me and I will include it....
I am just polishing it up.....
We also think we have a name for her. I just wanted to name her as soon as possible (after very much NOT being a "name the baby in utero" kind of gal). We are thinking old fashioned and traditional and one that she can easily say........... we have a short list........
L-Mom, do you have a Countrywide Loan?
Me- No, why?
L-- Well, you should get one. They have no filing fees, no closing costs and no hidden fees. They are really good.
Me-- OK, thanks.
Me-- Lu, I can hear you muttering under your breath. What is going on?
L-- Jacob is a vile old man. (not sure why.....).
Me-- (as Lauren gets out of the car to go to school). Goodbye sweetie, I love you
L--Another day, another dime, another dollar (and closes the door)....
Derek has been kicking around the idea of getting a new job. Long story for another post, but he currently has a job that he is doing really well at. He is good at it, he establishing himself as a real player in his industry and is being mentored by great people. It is the kind of job that pays obscene amounts of money, but requires nothing short of you soul. Having this baby has helped us understand that we need to restructure things and maybe look for a job that is a little bit closer, or allows him more sleep, etc.
Lauren caught wind of one of these conversations and after doing the hard sell to get us to move next to her cousins and Miles and Owen and Phoebe in Utah, she settled on finding him a job somewhere here. Each day she calls Derek and tells him about jobs that she has found around town. It is also a great topic of conversation for her "what should Daddy do?". This morning she saw a "help wanted" sign in front of Round Table Pizza. She was so excited to tell him about it. She also thinks he should work at Jamba Juice or the gas station. I get the feeling that she thinks that these jobs are SO COOL, she can't understand why he wants to look for another "money" job (we explained that she works in finance and helps other people invest their money).
So, if you know if any open positions at a Pizza Hut, a Jamba, a toy store or a book store, Derek's agent Lauren might be calling you.
She really is my sweet girl. It has been so fun to see her grown up personality come out.
Monday, November 26, 2007
We went with my husband's family to Park City, Utah. This is handy b/c my parents live really close by. So does my best friend. In theory, this would mean lots of fun social things and babysitting and visiting with family. In a perfect storm of awesomeness...none of that happened. So here it is, Turkey Day 2007 by the numbers...
Number of times someone threw up-- many, many, many....
Number of times it was on the plane -- 80%
Number of most consecutive hours of sleep by me or D -- 3
Number of times Jacob almost died during the long weekend -- 3 (not kidding)
Number of fun pre-planned social outings I attended -- 0
Number of times I had to go to the stupid outlet mall -- 4
Number of gifts I had to return on Black Friday after being really organized and buying the Christmas presents for the in laws in advance, only to find out that this year we are drawing names -- 8
Number of children I was ready to sell to the gypsies by the end of the trip (or to anyone, really) -- 2
Number of times I either tripped, dropped something or otherwise found out that my body does NOT seem to want to obey my brain -- eleventy million
Number of very beautiful, very expensive, band new white suede couches that my daughter managed to spill Vitamin Water all over and totally destroy -- 1
Number of times I watched Shrek 3 -- 10
Number of times I stayed awake past 7:30 pm -- 0
Number of times I will drag the whole family back to Park City for a holiday, even though it is a really nice house and wonderful opportunity -- 0
That is us. I really don't mean to make it so complain-y, but it was pretty comical. It really was a perfect storm of evil. My kids argued and fought. They tried to kill themselves (twice being hung by the bunk bed rails, once jumping off the third floor balcony), they got sick, they didn't sleep, they wandered the house all night (once Cubby woke up with a full bag of Doritos's clutched in his hands...no one knows where they came from....) and generally were a lot of work. That is what it comes down to, I think. It wasn't that we didn't have a good time and want to see the family, it was just a lot of work. I don't want to do it anymore. Is it terrible if I play the Down Syndrome card after this and just bow out? Seriously, my kids can argue, almost die and puke at our house just as easily as anywhere else. Right?
Who am I kidding? We will be back in a month.
How was your Thanksgiving? Seriously, did anyone have a healthy household? I am curious.
Thursday, November 15, 2007
I had decided to stay in my jammies all day as a gift to myself. By the time I had gotten up to go to the door for the mail man for the third time, I just got dressed already! It was so fun to get all your sweet packages and cards and e mails and calls. In this house, nothing comes in the mail unless it is a bill, and if it IS a real card, it is a birthday invitation for my daughter. This time they were for ME!!! I never get packages either......
The point is, what a fun day and THANK YOU for all your kind words. It was the perfect birthday because I spent the whole day being reminded that even though I want to put my head under the sand some days, the world is full of people that are wonderful and kind.
The best birthday present ever (besides being showered all day with fun stuff) was that at my Dr. appointment yesterday we got great news. I had a bunch of ultrasounds and meetings with a cardiologist to see if the baby's heart is OK. 50% of children with Down Syndrome have major heart and intestinal issues that require surgery. We are clear. She is also really big (they tend to be small, gestationally) and have other issues with arm and leg bones. Nada. That was a great birthday present. Hopefully, no surgery. Also, on the ultrasound I could see that she has her dad's chin (think Jay Leno).
AND Project Runway started. How could a day get better?
More info soon....
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
Ladies and Gentleman, I give you the first of many times when Jacob proves he will do ANYTHING to be part of L's big plans.
Friday, November 09, 2007
He did, however, find a Costco sized package of gum yesterday and chew them all and leave them around the house....
I need to get more protein into this child. No wonder he is only two apples tall!!! Also, he is still pretty much always naked. It is a loosing battle.
Thursday, November 08, 2007
This is actually a want ad. I know that so many of you live in the SLC/Provo area I am hoping you can help me. My extended family will be going to Park City for the Christmas Holiday. We won't arrive until the 27th, but I think that the others will be there the 23rd-ish. We will be in town until the 3rd. We need childcare. I know that there is someone out there that one of you knows that would like to make some extra cash at the break. Maybe a student home for the holiday? Maybe a mom that wants to put a dent in the Santa bills? Anyone? We are trying to avoid using a service and really would like to build the list of people that we know who can sit. We will be visiting here a lot in the next few years and it would be nice to have a list of sitters.
Here are the details:
--Never more than 4 children, ages 7, 3, 18 months and 12 months. During the days, the two older ones will ski (usually) and it will just be the little ones. Evenings will likely be all the kids.
--Pay is between 15 and 20 dollars an hour, depending on how many kids you have (if it is one or two it is 15$, three or four is 20$).
--We need some days (while the adults are skiing/shopping/generally not chasing the kids) and some evenings. I think that you can count on New Years Eve. The catch is that I am not totally sure of the schedule right now (the days I could guess and are more flexible) but the evenings won't be pinned down until the first part of December
--The biggest requirement is that the sitter needs to have experience (and be able to let me talk to two people who can tell me how great you are) and be the kind of person who shows up and is on time. You will also need to get yourself to Park City. The house is just past Stein Ericson's Lodge and is in a gated community that is patrolled and plowed. It is very safe.
--Someone who is intuitive would be nice. If you need to feed the kids, be able to put a lunch or dinner together, be able to not worry when the 3 year old doesn't want to go to bed, be willing to chat with the 7 year old (and I mean chat and chat and chat). That kind of thing. Three of the kids are mine, one is my nephew. Pretty easy kids.
I would love to hear any and all ideas. I think that a high school student would not be the best thing but could be talked into it (I know SEVERAL HS students that are much more capable than college students). An adult is fine, etc. Just someone who will keep the kids safe and will not just "not show up". That is key. This is my ONE job assigned to me by the in laws this season and I need to represent. ;-)
E mail me if you want or leave me a comment on how to contact you. rebeccakbingham at yahoo dot com.
Thanks. This could be a really great opportunity to make some serious cash this month. My inlaws are all about leaving the kids with a sitter while the adults go do things, and who can argue with that? If they had their way, there would be a sitter there 24/7. I don't anticipate that one person would be able to do it all, so the more the better....
Wednesday, November 07, 2007
So here is an update on the queen. The grandma's will like it, it will serve as future reference for the kids (and me) and the rest of you might possibly be bored. I know that this blog is pretty much only about my kids now. That will change again soon. I do actually have other thoughts in my head besides that, but lately I have been in full-on survival mode and this is happy stuff. You really don't want to hear about the rest of it.... ;-)
Norah was born pretty premature. Somewhere between 5-7 weeks early. She was tiny, but left the hospital just a few days after birth. We knew that there could be some issues with her in the future as a preemie, so this is not much of a surprise. From the very beginning, this child has been 85% easygoing and sweet and 15% pure attitude. There isn't much middle ground with her. I also said early on that one thing I knew that was going to be an issue with this girl is motivation. How right I was. Last month Norah was officially diagnosed as developmentally delayed. Again, no surprise, but still hard to hear the pediatrician say. In true Dr. fashion, they listed all the potential problems and the need to get her checked out and see if she has mental issues, physical, etc. It feels like a lot. My mama gut tells me that she will be OK eventually, but does need a little bit of help right now.
Here is where we stand right now, at 16 months:
Physical Development -- Norah doesn't walk or really pull herself up on furniture. She doesn't walk along furniture. The few times I have seen her crawl towards something and pull herself up to get it is for the toilet, which she LOVES to play in. Dilemma--do we let her play in the toilet b/c it helps her practice and makes her legs strong or not? I haven't found anything else that is interesting enough for her to do that. It brings us back to that old motivation problem. She was a later crawler and sitter. She sat up at about 8 or 9 months and started to army crawl at about 12 months. In the last few weeks she has moved exclusively to hands and knees crawling. In the last 6 weeks she has also mastered going up from a crawl to sitting on her knees or flipping over when laying down and crawling. I know she COULD do these things earlier, she just wouldn't. She started crawling up the stairs at about 12 months, but hasn't done it since. If I put her on a chair or couch, stays there. She doesn't try to get down or even fall down. She just stays. Yet, she will wiggle out of the buckle in the high chair and be on the tray or counter in a second. So I know she CAN do it if she wants to.
Next up is Cubby and Lu, then some new stuff about the new baby and the new challenges. I am still processing, but want to thank everyone for your comments, your links to others who are a little bit farther down the road than we are and just the general kindness. It has been wonderful and helpful....
Tuesday, November 06, 2007
Here is one of our favorite games (and they still think it is a game. Suckers). Find what motivates them (money for child #1, Popsicles for child #2). Put on a loud song and tell that that whoever can jump or dance for the longest amount of time gets the prize. If you have really competitive children, your kids will be too exhausted to fight and will be THRILLED to sit and watch a movie.
Seriously. This one saves my life.
You are welcome.
Sunday, November 04, 2007
Norah has the most beautiful curls and her hair is still pretty soft. I think her curls are going to be the type that grow OUT and not down. It just seems to keep getting bigger. I love it down, but I don't love how snarled it gets from the car seat and naps. She doesn't love it when I have to comb all the growlers out, so braids it is for now. We have been using Curly Cuties products and have been really happy. They smell REALLY good and even though they are kind of pricey, they last a really long time. I can comb out all her hair very easily after the bath and in the morning when I use the conditioner and hair milkshake.
This is how she sleeps each night (braids or no braids). I think she looks so cute with her little do rag... and they are all pink, of course. I helps keep her hair from getting too snarly and her braids from getting too fuzzy.....
As much as I love Norah's hair and love to do it, I am kind of glad that this next baby will be bald as a cue ball until she is about two (if the genetics hold out and she is a little white haired baby like Lu was...). No hair to deal with. ;-)
Friday, November 02, 2007
Lu is NOT a Doodlebop..she is Stephanie from Lazy Town....
(apparently she had to say that a lot)
Lauren waiting for her dad to pick her up for the Daddy/Daughter dance at school....
They even had flowers... that was the best part according to her...
I had been feeding Norah. In the time it took me to grab the camera, take a pictures and turn back around, I found this. Doesn't she look pleased with herself? And yes, apparently my children never wear clothes....